It seems that I have been through a couple different abusive relationships, and apparently I have learned to accept them as normal relationships. That is until my last relationship to where it came clear to me, the way I have been treated is not normal. My first abusive relationship was with My first husband. He used to constantly yelling at Me, telling me how I could never do anything right. And if He felt I deserved for him to slap me, punch or shove me across the room, then he would. It didn’t matter if was at h or punch me in public. He also felt he had the right to discipline my son, his step son. He would yell at him and make him knell on rice in the corner for hours at a time. And I couldn’t say anything to him because he would hit me and tell me to shut up. I stayed in the relationship for years until My Sister explained to me one day, men do not treat their wives this way and it did help me t leave him and I stared a new happy life without him.
There are several different types of abuse,. There is VERBAL ABUSE, this is when a person forcefully criticizes, insults, or denounces someone else. Characterized by underlying anger and hostility, it is a destructive form of communication intended to harm the self-concept of the other person and produce negative emotions.
EMOTIONAL ABUSE: There is emotional abuse involves shouting or criticism. Emotional abuse comes in many forms; at times making a personal feel crazy when they really aren’t. Emotional abuse can be defined as using manipulation, fear, intimidation and guilt to control someone & undermine their self-confidence. Emotional abuse is like brain washing intimidation that it systematically wears at the victim’s, sense of self worth, trust intimidation their own perceptions, and self-concept.
AGGRESSIVE ABUSE: aggressive forms of abuse intimidation clue name-calling, accusing, blaming, threatening, and ordering. Aggressive behaviors are generally direct and obvious.
DENYING: Withholding is another form of denying. Withholding includes refusing to listen, refusing to communicate, emotionally, withdrawing as punishment. This is sometime called the silence treatment.
MINIMIZING: Minimizing is a less extreme form of denial. When minimizing, the abuser may not deny that a particular event occurred, but they question the recipient’s emotional experience or reaction to an event statements such as “you’re too sensitive”, “you’re exaggerating”.
PHYSICAL ABUSE: This is any intentional act causing intentional jury or trams too any other person or any other abuse by the way of bodily contact, this often starts gradually, such as with a push or a slap, any other Abuse then becomes progressively worse over time. It is deliberately hurting a child causing injuries such as bruises, broken bones, black eyes, its, burns, kicking, pinching, choking, shaking, or cuts. The commonly reconciled forms of abuse are physical, sexual, financial, physiological, discriminatory, neglect, omission, organisational, self neglect, modern slavery, domestic.
*There is so many types of ABUSE In this world. But this is just a few to list for now. I will add more in future days. If You have a story you would like to share, please feel free to post it in the comment section below. I have recently separated from an terrible verbal abusive relationship and I’m still trying to recover from the 9 years old not even knowing I was experiencing this.